Are You Struggling with Codependency? If you think you may be struggling with codependency, please answer the following 21 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers. Email: Many good feelings about who I am rely on being liked by others True False Many good feelings about who I am come from getting approval from others True False The struggles of others don't affect my ability to feel calm. True False I am more likely to dedicate mental energy to solving my own problems before other peoples' problems True False A lot of my mental energy is focused on other people True False I have a tendency to dedicate mental attention to protecting other people True False I have manipulated others to do things when I know it's what's best for them True False My self-esteem increases when I solve other people's problems True False My self-esteem increases when I reduce other people's pain True False I have a tendency to put my own hobbies/interests aside so that I can spend more time with someone and absorb their hobbies/interests True False When I care for someone, their clothing and personal appearance are a reflection of me True False When I care for someone, their behavior is dictated by me, and I feel that they are a reflection on me True False I am not aware of how I feel, I am aware of how you feel I relate to this I Don't relate to this Dreams I have of my future are linked to a specific person True False My fear of rejection determines what I say or do True False My fear of your anger determines what I say or do True False I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about True False My social circles decreases because I involve myself with you more I can relate to this I cannot relate to this I sometimes put my values aside in order to connect with someone True False I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own True False The quality of my life exists in relation to the quality of yours True False Time is Up!